In order to make a self transformation you have to be ready to change. When you honestly want to change enough, you resolve to go through what it takes. For people with substance abuse problems this is usually characterized as hitting bottom. While hitting bottom can sometimes be necessary to motivate change it isn’t the only way that resolution occurs. Another way it can happen is by hitting a ceiling, when things have been going well but now improvement has plateaued. When you hit the ceiling you can’t improve any further the way you are and you are going to need a more significant transformation.
The real question is, if you haven’t achieved it yet then what do you have to lose? Nothing is impossible, the word itself says “I’m possible”! Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So, throw off the bowlines, sail away from safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore, Dream, Discover.